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This statement uttered by so many, meant from the heart, based upon a person’s personal belief system in a higher power REALLY IRRITATES ME.
Let me explain. Praying that my child is miraculously relieved of his “suffering of autism” is incredibly offensive on many levels. First, we don’t need a miracle – we need a school district, medical and therapeutic team, respite provider, supportive family, spouse who can be home to help out…we DON’T need a miracle.
Relief from the most severe of his autism symptoms would be fast in coming if funding and research was appropriate, if insurance companies would pay for therapies – and even try alternative therapies, if medications would be created/investigated/prescribed to those with self-injurious behaviors, comorbid psychiatric disorders, metabolic and even genetic disorders.
My child isn’t suffering because of his autism. He doesn’t know what it is like to not have autism. Any suffering he feels would be because of lack of compassion, understanding, and FUNDING through the public school districts. Suffering occurs when other students, or even staff, bully and abuse my child. When therapists, other family members and others in his life refuse to learn about his disorder. When they don’t ask questions, or listen (really listen!) to the answers, when they don’t have an open mind and heart.
I don’t need a cure for my son. I need compassion. I need a helping hand every once in a while. I need an ear, a shoulder, a break.
I’m not looking for a miracle, I’m looking for society, family, and friends to be open to the realities of our life.
I’m not looking for a miracle.
Or, maybe I am.
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Kelly is a Navy wife and mother to three children; 16 year old NT, 6 and 5 year old boys on the spectrum; and, since life was getting a touch boring, she’s added a bun in the oven. Kelly has been featured in a collection of essays on special needs children entitled, “Wit and Wisdom From the Parents of Special Needs Children.” She can also be found at MyTidewaterMoms.com, and as a guest blogger throughout the blog-iverse. In her spare time, Kelly is the Blog Master for, and member of, the Military Special Needs Network Executive Board. You can contact her via email at KellyHafer@MilitarySpecialNeedsNetwork.com.
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