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Call it a labor of love or call it insanity, I wanted my Addie to feel like one of the “cool kids” on Halloween. For two weeks, my friend Stacy and I measured, cut, taped and painted. We hand shaded the runways, added lights, and bought die-cast military airplanes and helicopters to adorn the flight deck. It was a huge success – Addie, dressed in her Navy uniform, loved it! Teachers, parents, and students took photos and cheered her on. She felt so special and it truly made Addie’s day a Halloween to remember.
But….although Halloween was only but a day, an evil witch tried to cast a spell of darkness on me yesterday.
Another mom from the local elementary school was very unhappy about Addie’s costume. She approached me and remarked how I should “tone it down” and shouldn’t create a spectacle of a costume for my daughter. This mom ranted that, while creating a costume of that magnitude for home was fine, bringing it to school was wrong. The typically-developing children in the mainstream classes weren’t given enough praise and adoration during the School Community Gathering; rather Addie was the “center of attention” and it wasn’t fair for her daughter or others.
Sidebar: Now, here’s the part where as a special needs mom, you make a choice. You can either politely smile and say, “I’m sorry you feel that way,” or go from zero-to-mama-bear in 30 seconds. Although not one of my finer moments, I chose the latter.
In front of a few school staff members, I proceeded to educate her about holidays and the effects they have on children with special needs. I explained that, although Addie uses a wheelchair, that doesn’t mean she can’t have fun for Halloween, despite her disabilities. How for one day out of the year, Addie gets to experience what it feels like to be a rock star. I asked her if she had life-threatening allergies, aversions to textures, or if anyone in her family was non-verbal. I pointed out that she should be ashamed of herself for attacking me and being bitter over a Halloween costume. She left in a huff and jaws hit the floor. And I walked away satisfied with the fact that sometimes, you have to be a bitch.
Hey – and I only used one cuss word. That’s a big victory for me.
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